- 1 Self Improvement – How to Improve Yourself & Best Motivational Speech 2018
- 1.1 The FIRST Thing You Need To Do (If You Want To Get Anywhere In Life)
- 1.2 Self Improvement : How to know about Yourself?
- 1.3 SELF IMPROVEMENT – 3 EASY WAYS TO IMPROVE CONFIDENCE
- 1.4 Self Improvement Tips – 6 Tips To Deal With The Negative Comments That Come With Self Improvement
- 1.5 Self Improvement Books
Self Improvement – How to Improve Yourself & Best Motivational Speech 2018
Self improvement is widespread to the human experience; we as a whole have things we’d jump at the chance to change about ourselves. Maybe you need to get in shape, enhance your abilities in a specific zone, be more agreeable socially, be more joyful, or more profitable. Whatever a definitive improvement wanted, keeping in mind the end goal to accomplish it you may profit by distinguishing your particular objectives, establishing change, and adapting to difficulties.
The FIRST Thing You Need To Do (If You Want To Get Anywhere In Life)
Self improvement – Now if you’ve been a prescribe of this channel for a long enough time you’ve probably noticed that I cover a wide range of topics. We talk about things like meditation, reading books, working out, eating better, nowrap, social skills, dating, and the list goes on and on and on.
The question I know a lot of you have in your mind is well…improvement pill there’s so much info out there. I want to improve. But where should I start. And that’s what we’re going to talk about in todays video.
So before we dive into exactly what you should be doing – we need to talk about something called information overload. So – This is when we take in way too much information at once.
We realize that we should meditate,take cold showers, stop watching porn, read every single day, change our diet, hit the gym, practice our social skills – and when there’s this much information – we freeze. There’s just too many obstacles to overcome, and the whole thing feels like a huge mountain that we have to scale.
And it feels impossible, or at least it feels like it’s very hard to do. And guess what, the next day we wake up and go back to our old routine. We tell ourselves , “oh don’t worry I’ll get around to doing that” and we never do. So to combat that, i’m going to tell you exactly where to start.
The first thing you need to do in your self-development journey. Drum rolllllllll please *drum roll* clean your room. Yes – by literally cleaning your room. Let me explain. Everything about self development requires you to overcome an obstacle.
You want to become more attractive? Well you have to drag your ass to the gym on a regular basis and also resist the urges to eat certain foods. You want to be happier?
Well you’re going to have to make mediation intoa a habit. Which involves forcing yourself to sit down for 10 minutes a day. You want to find a girlfriend? Well you’re going to have to confront that fear of rejection you’ve been running away from your entire life.
Each of these obstacles is no joke. There’s hundreds of millions of people out there who fail at overcoming them every single day. It’s pretty hard stuff. Sure, It sounds easy when you learn about them in some video. But when it comes down to actually doing it and sticking to it, let’s be real – most people fail.
The problem with most people is that they try and tackle the hardest, biggest obstacles first. And this isn’t the best strategy. Because, If you’ve ever played a video game before you know that you have to kill the weakest enemies in order to get stronger then you face the big bad boss at the end of the game.
The same applies for self-development. you need to start with the simplest, easiest, most straight forward, yet still important obstacle of them all.
Which is to clean your immediate surroundings. Because each article of clothing, each piece of debris on the floor is a tiny obstacle that you can overcome. And each time you overcome it, each time you put away your dirty laundry, or throw away your useless trash, or make your bed – that little muscle called discipline and motivation and work ethic in your brain gets stronger. It get’s a little bit More capable at conquering the bigger tasks like going to the gym every other day.
Cleaning your room is also important for another reason. It gives you mental clarity. Our brain does this thing. It automatically looks around our surroundings to make sure everything is in place.
We look for problems that we can solve. We look for suspicious figures in the alleyway that could be potentially dangerous. You may not realize it, but when you live in clutter, when there’s stuff all over your room, you’re brain will literally have a harder time staying focused on one task.
There’s just too much stuff going on around you – too many obstacles, too many problems clogging up your brain. With a cleaner room, you’ll have less problems to focus on.
This means you can devote more time to the obstacles that you really need to face. So for those of you that don’t know where to start? Just start by cleaning up your room.
The FIRST Thing You Need To Do (If You Want To Get Anywhere In Life)
Self Improvement : How to know about Yourself?
Self improvement – Before watching this video, leave your other activities. I need your attention, so assume that You will go on Funeral today. You leave your home and go towards Funeral You see that, There are many people in Funeral and a dead body is also there You go towards dead body and reached near to dead body Usually, it happens that people try to see the face of dead body same as it is you also try to see the face of dead body who is it?
You are shocked It is your own dead body Before last rituals Some people will do speeches there Just imagine that its your dead body and before last rituals… Some people will do speeches. First speech will deliver from your brothers or sisters.
First speech will deliver from your brother or sister second speech will deliver by a person from your relatives. Relatives mean uncles or cousins third speech. Will be from your colleagues with them you do job or business fourth speech will be from your friends.
So think what people will speak for you? They speak what you have done in your life… Now think what are you doing in your life. Try to think that who are you and how you can improve yourself. So that people use good words for you after your death.
SELF IMPROVEMENT – 3 EASY WAYS TO IMPROVE CONFIDENCE
(No.1) Practice of Self-responsibility
In 1967 Martin Saligemen did an experiment,in which he has given light shocks to some dogs But before giving shock. He used to first ring a bell, he has repeated this process for several times Hence because of this what happened those dogs has associated that bell ring with shocks so whenever.
Martin used to just ring a bell and he didn’t give them a shock, still those dogs has to behave as if they have received a shock, this was the first part of an experiment, in second part martin kept those dogs inside a box type place, and that box type place was divided by one small wooden stick .
In one part of the box was button, by pressing that button he can give shocks to those dogs but the other side or part of the box was safe so when martin kept old dogs in that button part area, those dogs lay down in that same part and didn’t even tried to jump and to get into the safe part of the box.
If they would have tried then they would have saved themselves from that shock however when martin kept new dogs inside that button area, new dogs who haven’t received shocks they jumped to the safe side in order to protect themselves from that shock.
Through this experiment martin derived a very important theory which is known as Learned Helplessness which teaches that Helplessness can be learnt, we humans and animals learn it with the help of our life experiences, which isn’t good for many a times, example if that dog instead of accepting his situation.
If he would have tried and if he would have taken action and would have jumped to other side then. He must have saved himself from that shock but however with his past experience. He learned and thought that no matter what i will receive shock hence.
He didn’t even tried and those dogs surrendered themselves in front of that problem without trying just by feeling helpless same thing happen with humans as well, many a times we take our situations so badly and think that. We can’t do anything about it.
We treat ourselves as victims we feel that others have control over us and we can’t control anything, controlling isn’t in our hands and we just can’t do anything we are helpless, but the actual fact is if we people take 100 percent responsibility for everything.
In our hands and if we use our brain properly and if we take proper actions then we have the capability to change worst to worst situations and can make everything right hence.
Even you should take the responsibility of things which is going around you, no matter if those things are happening because of you or coz of someone else. Just take the responsibility you should have your life control in your hands and do take actions.
This thing for sure give huge success to you but also increase your self-esteem and self-confidence.
(No.2) Practice of living life purposefully
for most of the people life is like a flowing river, in which they flow without thinking or without plans they do not hard work or put efforts in the direction about which they have plan instead they just go with the flow.
Where river(life) is taking them they are just moving there without thinking and this happens till the time they don’t see a big waterfall in front of them. When they see end of that river they realise that they are about to fall, hence at that moment.
They try to move out of that river. They try hard very hard to move to the opposite side of the river. They try to protect themselves but unfortunately. It was too late for them Maximum people in this world lives their life on others people terms and condition.
They do what society ask them to do, they don’t have their own goals, they don’t have their own life purpose because of which they go with the flow. They keep on flowing without any plans and understanding but one day when life problems knock their door they fail to face it.
Even after try a hell lot of time they fail to handle it, and they blame others for their own wrong doings it was their mistake of not setting goals and moving without plans Why to talk about others, Even i was living my life without goals and plans.
When i was in college just by looking my parents and friends life even i was living my life the way it was going, because of which my self-esteem and confidence wasn’t good and at that moment if i wouldn’t have set my goals, if i wouldn’t have plan my purpose just like my friends then today just like them.
I would have still searching for good job and i would have about to fall from the financial waterfall( financial problems) and till now. I would have lost my entire self-esteem and confidence but fortunately because of reading books.
I came to know the importance and value of goals and purpose since then. I have made my life purpose to encourage people towards reading books, to generate curiosity and i will for sure try to change people mentality, because ones people’s mentality changes then.
Our country’s and whole worlds some biggest problems will get solved and we people together will make a huge difference in our country and in this whole world therefore. I created this channel which is completing my purpose and also helping me to earn.
I am living my life purposefully hence my self-esteem and confidence is far better than earlier hence i would request you all to set goals, don’t go with the flow don’t allow life or situations to move the way they are moving do plan, what you want to do.
How to want to do set goals right now at this moment or else suddenly a day will come when you will trapped yourself in a big problem and no matter how much you try you fail to move out of that problem, and finally you will fall.
(No.3) Practice of Personal
Integrity suppose there are two mens one who only knows how to talk and real always fails to take actions and never able to do anything good in life on the other hand there’s another man.
Who not only talk but have courage to take actions as well in real so according to you whose confidence will be more?
To practice self-integrity means to do things what we say means to take actions according to our believe.s I personally and genuinely with pure heart believes that defrauding, cheating someone and taking else’s rights is not at all good.
Its really bad but suppose one day. If i do thing which is against my believe if i defraud someone or cheat someone then. This thing for sure will damage my self-esteem. Not only because i did something wrong but because what i believed with my whole heart.
i did something opposite of it and this thing will make me feel guilty and i will never able to face myself in mirror. Having Integrity means to take actions according to your believe and sayings and this things will for sure boost your self-esteem and confidence and its must for your confidence hence.
Always practice to take actions as per your believes and sayings(talking). These were the last three remaining principles from the book.
Self Improvement Tips – 6 Tips To Deal With The Negative Comments That Come With Self Improvement
Self improvement – One of the unfortunate downsides of starting to make positive changes in your own life is that as you do that, people around you sometimes get negative, and unfortunately, it can be the people who are closest to you. It doesn’t matter what it is.
I’ve seen it in the fitness run, whether you’re starting a new fitness regimen. I’ve seen it with people beginning new businesses, and I’ve certainly seen it with people who follow tips on this channel to become more charismatic.
Sometimes, the people closest to you just do not like it, and, now, it seems like you’ve started to invite this negativity into your life. So, in this video, what I want to do is give you 6 things that have helped me to deal with this and it’s across the board, whether it’s been fitness, entrepreneurship, getting better at being more charismatic, being more social.
If you’re starting to get negativity for the choices that you’ve made, particularly, ones with the growth-related subject. I want to help you to deal with that in the future. So here’s the first tip.
I call it the “Toddler Technique” and the reason is this. If you’ve ever seen a toddler run around and fall, which they do all the time, when they get back up, the first thing they do isn’t just burst into tears.
The first thing a toddler does when they fall and they scraped their knee, is they get up and they look around, and they see who is looking at them, and how are they reacting. And when you have a mom who comes screaming across the room, screaming at the toddler, “Oh, my god, are you okay?”
That kid goes, “Ah,” and you just see the waterworks explode. But I’ve also seen the same thing, I’ve seen kids go down hard, and the parent just goes, “Hoopsie Daisy, there you go.”
And they keep running and playing. I bring this up because people don’t actually change much when they grow up, right?
These ambiguous situations when we don’t know how to behave, we look for the people around us to tell us what we should do. And what this means is that when people are being negative to you, they’re actually looking to you to tell them, “Should I continue or should I shut up?”
So one of the best things to do when people start being negative and kind of in an oblique, passive-aggressive way is to simply ignore it.
Take the wind right out of their sails. So, if somebody makes a comment, say that you start going to the gym, and they say, “Oh, Brian is like super obsessed with the gym now.”
A really easy thing to do is shoot him a glance, go back, if there’s someone else, talk to them and bring up a completely different subject.
And if they say that, you can look at them or continue on with whatever it is you’re doing, whether you’re walking. Ignore that thread. Now one of the things that you might be tempted to do is realize that there’s an attack underneath it.
Don’t engage it yet, right? We’ll talk about what to do if you do get into a back and forth, but for now, 50% of the negative comments that you get can be dealt with by simply ignoring them. People are hyper aware when they say something and it just goes over on dead air; a very, very powerful technique.
So, say that they do continue, right? Say you ignore it once and they start to get passive-aggressive in their line of questioning, and I can think of one that is very, very particular to me. I was a Philosophy major, which meant that in college.
I got this question all the time, “What are you going to do after college?” In fact, some people would be very passive-aggressive about it and they’d say, “What are you gonna do after school? You’re gonna open up a Philosophy store?”
And I swear to God I got that dozens and dozens of times, and I would see that underneath that question there was this attack. I would see they’re saying Philosophy is dumb. It’s not economically viable. You shouldn’t be doing it.
And I would begin to address all of those questions, “Well it’s good for this reason,” and, you know, blah, blah, blah. And we get into a back and forth, and eventually, they just think it was dumb. The fastest, easiest way that I found to deal with it was by purposely misinterpreting passive aggressive questions as if they were literal.
So what that means–I know it’s a lot of like complicated words–is this; they say, “What do you do, open up a Philosophy store?” And I’d go, “No, I don’t think that’s a good idea.” And then, talk about anything else. The same sort of principle as the “Ignore Technique.” What you’d do right here is you’d take the wind out of their sails.
They’re trying to go down a path of being passive aggressive, getting you to bite, engage, get riled up. Don’t do it. Treat it as a literal question, which brings me to the third thing. If you have done this kind of stuff, what you’re going to see is that people, now, are either going to be direct or they’re going to back off. If they back off, great.
What you might have done now is invite them to a direct conversation about why they think you’re vain for doing fitness, or why they think a Philosophy degree is stupid, or why do they think your business is going to fall flat on its face.
Great. Now at least we’re having an honest conversation. There’s not this weird passive aggressive attacks. What I find, when somebody finally does ask the question, “Hey, man, I don’t know Philosophy majors don’t make a ton of money,” or “I feel like it’s kind of vain to go to the gym all the time,” or “Don’t you know that businesses, like, 99% of them fail?”
Now you can have an honest conversation. What I recommend here is a little bit backwards, because a lot of people often times try to be really strong and they’ll be having a ton of conviction here, which is good. Conviction is great, but I want to add a nuance to that, and that is to be vulnerable.
Let them know the reasons that you chose the things you do–the emotional reasons. So, for Philosophy majors, I think back on this in my own life. People finally say, “So why did you do Philosophy, man?” like, “Okay, you’re not gonna start a Philosophy store, I get it, but why did you pick Philosophy?”
And I’d say, “So, man, I got to college and I know how you felt, but I had a ton of questions and I thought college was just gonna teach me that,” like how should I live? What does a good person do? What does it mean to do the right thing?
What is a good life? And I was, all of a sudden, I’m in Statistics and none of these classes were addressing it. Philosophy seemed to be the only class that I had that was even concerned with those questions.
And I stuck with it because it was the only one that was asking them. I don’t know if I’ll have an answer by the end of this, but, at least, it’s starting at the foundation, and I hope that serves me for the rest of my life. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. Being vulnerable about the fact that I was confused; the fact that I didn’t know what to do. I mean, those are very relocatable things.
If you were for one second, when people ask you these things, drop the certainty that it’s gonna work out. Because if you’re taking an unconventional life path, it’s not necessarily going to go great. If you’re trying to be an actor or actress, you’re not guaranteed to be Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, but if you express that you know what?
I love the craft and there’s something about it that makes me feel alive. Even if I’m not getting paid a ton of money, it does something for me that lights me up, and that’s worth it to me. That will oftentimes get people to just back off.
So be vulnerable in those situations where you do get direct questioning. Now, the fourth tip. These are kind of chronological, so people, sometimes, a lot of people at this point, will have accepted it and backed off. But one of the things.
I see is if you start to get this line. I could never do that. I could never live with the uncertainty of acting and not knowing where my next paycheck was coming from. Or I could never just travel like you do.
Or I could never go without eating donuts. I just like food too much. How do you handle this when people say that? There is one rebuttal that I love to all of these and it’s this. If somebody said something to that degree.
I could never, you know. I could never not eat donuts. You say, “Well, you know, it’s a good thing that you make decisions for you and I get to make decisions for my life because if the roles were reversed, it sounds like we’d both will be really unhappy.”
And that is like, that is a drop, explosive conversation that will just go, “Oh, okay.” And that’s it. That is often times the absolute end of it. Because what you’ve communicated in that is that one, I don’t need you to approve of it and I don’t need to approve your life. And, secondly, I’m honestly not really impressed with the thing that you’re doing but I don’t shove it down your throat that you should do it a different way.
Often times you follow these 4 things, you’re gonna be done with this negativity. If people bring it back up, run through the 4 steps and sometimes you might just have to end that relationship. But those 4 things will oftentimes end any sort of negative attack that you receive.
But there are six things that I want to cover today, and that’s because I was doing some things wrong. These are things that you shouldn’t and should be doing. The first one is DON’T RECRUIT. Number 5, first one of do not do. Don’t recruit people.
I remember, I went and I read the 4-Hour Workweek when I was about 23 years old. And I was evangelical. Everyone has to read this book. Everyone had to start a business. They all needed muses. They all need to quit their jobs.
Everyone had to read the whole thing, and I would get into arguments with people, about whether or not it could work; about whether or not Tim Ferriss was just making shit up, if he’d actually done it, if the cases studies were real. And I debated for hours and hours, and at the end of it, we never agreed because I hadn’t proved anything.
When I finally shut up and worked on my business, and built it, ironically, now that I stopped telling people that they need to read the 4-Hour Workweek, I get asked more often, “Hey man, what book should I read to change my life, to start doing the things that you’re doing,” and I tell them, “Go, read the 4-Hour Workweek.”
So, you can’t be a recruiter. When you find your path, if you found it, I know that there’s this temptation that you want to take your friends, your family, the whole damn world along with you into this new wonderful thing.
But you cannot shove it down people’s throats. They will not come and you just invite more negativity into your own life if you do that. So, 5. Don’t recruit. The sixth one is something that you should do, and this is to make up for the fact that if you don’t recruit people, you might feel rather lonely. I was very lucky.
My best friend was into this stuff with me, but you might not have that good fortune. So if this is the case, you need to find at least one other person that has got your back; that’s gonna take this journey with you.
It is so hard to be the only one in your town or friend group that is trying to do the right thing, and maybe if you’re experiencing, you can sympathize with this. So what I recommend is use the wonder of the internet.
Get on the subject that is related to your thing. Go out and in your town, or even better, go to a meetup for whatever it is, because just simply surrounding yourself with other people that share the interest, that want to grow in the way that you do, is life-changing.
I remember, we moved to Brazil after I quit my job. I had no money. I was sleeping on the floor, but we managed as we talked to people, there were a couple of guys who were interested and four of them joined us.
And one of them said, it’s like, “Dude, this feels incredible because it feels like personal development has been my dirty little secret for so long. And if that’s how you feel, I just want to tell you, that there are tons and tons of communities out there for you to get involved in, to be a part of.
And the most powerful thing is not just to have online friends, but to go to the meetup. Participate in it. We actually started a New York personal development meetup out in New York City. If you want to go and do that, I think it still exists and you can do it there. So, go find your tribe. One other person is gonna make you feel like you’re not crazy and that could mean all the difference. So, I hope that you found these tips helpful.
I know that at the time when I was starting, I would have appreciated these myself, and if you do find yourself in that situation, you’re the only person out there who’s trying to get fit while your friends smoke weed.
You’re trying to start a business while everyone else thinks you need to be a corporate drone. Know this. You are on a solid path. Other people have done it. There are people out there that will help you and you’re not alone.
Self Improvement Books
1. How to Win Friends & Influence People
2. Think and Grow Rich
3. The Power of Now
4. The 4-Hour Workweek
5. The Power of Positive Thinking
6. How to stop worrying and start living…